Sex as Basis for Marriage Counseling

These marriage counseling therapists will use the client’s sexual history and their thoughts on the matter of sex as a basis for counseling. They may even refer to the client’s sexual history or thoughts as a basis for counseling, which is an appropriate treatment method.

The therapy may also be completed in the same room, as is often the case with marriage counseling, rather than in a separate room and with the client’s wife present. As long as all participants agree to it, the therapy is usually supervised and recorded by one or more professionals.

Marriage counseling is usually conducted in a room or office with a table or chairs. Sometimes a small room is set aside for such purposes.

The Counseling Team

A marriage counseling team will include:

Counseling therapist – an individual or group of therapists

Counseling counselor – the person who helps the individual make sense of his or her sexual problems

Counseling psychologist – the person who helps the individual understand his or her sexuality and sexual orientation, as well as the psychology of the emotional trauma of being in an unhappy relationship Marriage counselor – the person who helps the individual to find the motivation to take on the responsibilities of marriage and/or live as a married person, even though this does not necessarily mean the individual becomes single.

Other professionals may be needed if the individuals are difficult to work with. They may include social workers, medical specialists, pastors, psychiatrists, psychologists or a combination of these professionals.

As therapists are people too, sometimes they will also need to be involved in assisting the individuals to identify issues within themselves, such as depression, anxiety, stress and/or family life problems. They may work as counselors in the same way that professional doctors do but have the training of being marriage counselors, instead of being medical doctors.

So why have some people said that marriage counselors are over-emotional and emotionally detached?

Are counselors too emotional or not emotional enough? Or are some couples better off with marriage counselors than with therapists? I think the two terms are interchangeable and both are appropriate. While we all have a strong emotional response to certain situations, it can still be helpful if counselors have worked on helping couples to identify their emotional needs and work with them.

In the final analysis, all counseling needs to be part of a “work program” which is designed to make a significant improvement to a couple’s relationship.

One common approach is called “relationship counseling”, which is designed to help couples to:  be aware of the problems that are causing each partner’s feelings;  take responsibility for their part in these problems;  recognize, understand and accept their emotions and the consequences of their reactions;  feel understood;  have good interpersonal relationships;  and to work together to help each other.

Lifelong happiness is also very important. The “in-lives” counseling concept is based on the theory of a “deep well” within us (the self) which can only be accessed through life experiences. When we reach this “in-life”, an ongoing awareness of the self emerges, and our relationships become more positive.

Some of the specific factors that might influence a person’s tendency to seek out counseling are:

The tendency to seek counseling may depend on the extent to which there are social barriers to seeking counseling;

Counseling may be perceived as the natural and correct response to the problem.